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16.02.25

 

10 Facts about human personality you shouldn’t ignore!

By Human mind readers

Posted by John Ethan on Jan 13/2025

 


1. Personality is relatively stable over time but can change with significant life events or experiences.

2. It is shaped by a combination of genetic factors and environmental influences, such as upbringing and culture.

3. Personality can be assessed using various theories and models, with the Big Five personality traits (openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism) being one of the most widely accepted frameworks.

4. Introversion and extraversion are key dimensions of personality, influencing how individuals recharge and interact socially.

5. People with high agreeableness tend to be more cooperative and compassionate, while those with low agreeableness may be more competitive or confrontational.

6. Conscientiousness is associated with being organized, responsible, and dependable, which can lead to success in various areas of life.

7. Openness to experience is linked to creativity, curiosity, and a willingness to embrace new ideas and experiences.

8. Neuroticism refers to emotional instability and a tendency to experience negative emotions, which can affect mental health and relationships.

9. Personality traits can influence career choices, relationships, and overall life satisfaction.

10. Understanding your personality can help you improve self-awareness, enhance communication with others, and foster personal growth.

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28.09.24

To What Extent is Your Personality False?

By R’Kok

Channel: A. S. 

Posted on September 28, 2024
 
 

 
 
My dear Earth friends,
 
This is R’Kok speaking. I am grateful for this opportunity, and feel humbled that out of the countless beings who would love to be channeled, I am the one who is chosen for today.
 
Seriously, you have no idea how many beings would love to send a message to Earth — to give advice, to share stories, to tell you how much they love and appreciate and respect you.
 
Today I would like to discuss: to what extent is your personality false?
 
And I’m asking the question in this way because almost certainly your personality is false to a greater extent than zero.
 
I’m calling those parts of your personality false that were created as a coping or a defensive mechanism, to deal with fear or pain or pressure or indoctrination. Beliefs or life choices that don’t fit you are also part of your false personality.
 
For example, imagine a woman who was raised to be a good, kind Christian who never gets angry or offends anyone.
 
Which parts of this woman’s personality are false? Well, it depends on the woman. It’s possible that incidentally, being a good, kind Christian woman is almost exactly what she resonates with in this life. In this case, very little of her personality may be false. Now sure, everyone gets angry occasionally, so never getting angry and never offending anyone is probably part of a false personality, but still.
 
On the other hand, it’s also possible that this woman had the pre-birth intention to be a piercing, rationally-minded, atheistic, investigative journalist who asks tough, possibly unkind or offensive questions to people. In this case, if the woman actually adopts the kind, Christian woman personality who never offends anyone (and she might), then pretty much all of her personality could be false, and that might lead to psychological problems, anxiety, substance abuse, a gnawing unhappiness or emptiness, etc. Or she might rebel very hard during her teenage years, or she might experience a severe midlife crisis.
 
This is why it’s best to give your children room to express themselves and be themselves and explore and find themselves, and not push them too hard in any particular direction. If you allow that, and if your children are loved and taken care of, then probably a relatively small amount of their personality will be false — although it might still be the case that your child came in to be a reformer or shaker-up of the system, and so they’re not ever going to fit in and be satisfied in a world like Earth. Some people have the choice between adopting a false personality and just not fitting in with society at all, and that can be a tough choice.
 
Now in most cases, a child gets damaged to a relatively large degree — more than you’re perhaps aware of, because parents have to push their children into a mold so that they’ll fit into society, which is seen as normal and necessary but can actually be quite damaging for the child. As a result, a child may grow up with a relatively large false personality.
 
Let’s investigate to what extent you have, and / or grew up with a false personality. I would like to invite you to answer the following questions for yourself. Feel free to pause this message, answer a question and then unpause the message.
 
Does it feel like a burden to occasionally more or less have to keep quiet about your true beliefs, because normal people are aggressively close-minded? So for example, if you’re adopting a false, polite, normal persona at work because the people there wouldn’t accept the real you, then that might be causing you inner pain — even though that’s probably also necessary, and I wouldn’t recommend being excessively open at work. To be clear, you’re not doing anything wrong if you hide your true self at work, that may be necessary. But if you’re hiding your true self at work, and if that causes you emotional pain, then that’s good to be aware of. Awareness is the first step towards decreasing your suffering, after all.
 
Does it feel reasonable to you that you have to make money to survive, and that you therefore might be pushed into doing a job that’s more or less pointless? If that feels unreasonable to you, then even having a job might not be a part of the real you — even though it might be necessary regardless. This is the paradox of living on Earth: you might have to do things that go against your nature just to be able to afford food, because Earth’s society is so twisted. So I’m not saying to quit your job today, I’m not saying you’re doing anything wrong, but if needing to have a job is causing you inner turmoil then, at least it’s good to be conscious of that.
 
Next up: were you allowed to be angry as a child and teenager? Were you allowed to cry? Were you allowed to rest and more or less do nothing for a while? Were you allowed to fail?
 
Are there any other emotions that you weren’t allowed to have as a child?
 
Did those emotions or desires become subconscious or repressed? Do you have inner parts of yourselves who still have those desires?
 
Were you allowed to pick your own religious and spiritual beliefs as a child, or were you more or less pushed into a specific belief such as Christianity or atheism?
 
Were you allowed to pick your own left vs right political preference, or were you more or less told that this side is noble and right and that the other side is evil and stupid?
 
To what extent were you allowed to say or express things that your parents disapproved of? To what extent were you pushed to be a model child, or a child that your parents could be proud of?
 
Did your parents push you in certain directions to mitigate their own fears?
 
Did you receive sufficient unconditional love and freedom as a child?
 
Now let’s ask a few more questions about your current adult self:
 
To what extent do you dare be authentic, even if it upsets others or make you look a bit crazy in the eyes of others?
 
Are you comfortable with your inner masculinity and femininity? And are you sure about that? Are there some parts of it that you’re in resistance to?
 
To what extent are you suffering from learned helplessness — the idea that you’re unable to create positive change? Do you feel comfortable with giving up the familiar and with making drastic, perhaps scary changes at the appropriate time. Do you feel comfortable in your ability to create a good life for yourself? Do you feel comfortable in your ability to contribute positively to Earth society?
 
What parts of your life are things you want to do, and what parts of your life are things you feel you have to do? And is it actually true that you have to do those things?
 
If as your current adult self you’re nice to someone — do you do that because that’s the real you, or do you do that because you want something from the other person (approval, sex, love), or do you do that so that you can prove to yourself or others that you are a good person?
 
When women express a dislike of so-called “nice guys”, often they’re sensing that being nice is a false personality of that man. He’s not being nice because that’s his nature, instead he’s being nice to get something (sex, approval), or to manipulate people in some way (look at me being a great guy). The niceness is part of the “nice guy’s” false personality.
 
People often prefer those who have a mostly-genuine personality, even if they’re kind of dicks, over those who pretend to be nice but aren’t.
 
Now, due to the previous questions, you might have discovered that your childhood was lacking in some ways that you weren’t aware of. I empathize — life on Earth is indeed really tough and unfair, and I’m sorry.
 
As with previous messages: observing yourself without judging or bulldozing or suppressing immediately trying to change yourself is a valuable step towards healing. And also, give yourself some time — you can’t change your entire personality overnight.
 
If you still think that none of your personality is false, well, it’s entirely possible that less of your personality might be fake than most people. But if you were entirely unblocked and fully aligned with your soul and Source, you could and probably would single-handedly liberate Earth. And you could do things such as teleport, et cetera. So likely you still have some blocks and some false parts of your personality.
 
If you’re unaware which parts of your personality are fake, it might help to just keep asking yourself “why” whenever you make a notable choice, or whenever you do something that perhaps doesn’t make a lot of sense. Then keep asking yourself “why” as a follow-up question when you answer the first “why.”
 
Finally, it’s completely fine, and indeed quite wise, to just say that you don’t know something. And of course, you can still have an opinion even though you’re not entirely sure, and act based on that opinion.
 
I hope this was insightful. You have all my love and respect and empathy for living on such a tough world, and I give my greatest well-wishes to you. May we meet in the not too distant future.
 
And finally, there have been some other channelers on your world citing 2026 or 2027 as the time of first contact, while galactics associated with this channeler have been saying that it’s likely but not guaranteed that we’ll meet before the end of 2025, and that your lives will improve substantially before the end of 2025. Why the difference? Well, the future isn’t actually set in stone, because you have free will. The time of first contact depends on the choices that Earth humans make, therefore no galactics are completely sure when first contact will occur.
 
On your world you often have multiple models making different predictions; well, so do we. We may be advanced, but it’s simply impossible to predict the free-will choices that people are going to make. After all, if we could predict what you were going to do, then effectively you wouldn’t have free will at all. And you do have free will.
 
That said, our “likely but not guaranteed” 2024 or 2025 prediction might look like public and open first contact, or it might look like galactics contacting those Earth humans who are awake enough, which includes lots of people who are currently tuning in to this message (hence Hakann’s earlier suggestion to form small groups interested in meeting up). So both predictions could come to pass if we end up contacting Earth humans who are ready in 2024 or 2025, and then land publicly in 2026 or 2027.
 
That said, Hakann and the others are still looking at landing openly in 2024 or 2025, so that absolutely could still happen (although admittedly 2025 is looking more likely than 2024 for that).
 
Or the other galactic source might be right and it might be 2026 or 2027. Or we might all be wrong — no one is entirely sure, because it depends on your choices, Earth humans. The only thing that I am sure of is that you will be free, in the not too distant future.
 
I understand that may not be a very satisfying answer. I can only say: thank you so very much for your service and for your presence on Earth at this time. I imagine it must be very hard and painful at times, but most likely you are doing an amazing job and a great service indeed to mankind, and I salute you.
 
With love,
R’Kok
 

A. S. 

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Reminder discernment is recommended
from the heart, not from the mind
 
The Truth Within Us, Will Set Us Free. We Are ONE.
No Need of Dogmatic Religions, Political Parties, and Dogmatic Science, linked to a Dark Cabal that Divides to Reign.
Any investigation of a Genuine TRUTH will confirm IT. 
TRUTH need no protection.
 
Question: Why the (fanatics) Zionists are so afraid of any Holocaust investigations?
 

  
 
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20.09.24

20 Signs of an Abusive Friendship You May Overlook

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on September 20, 2024
 
 
Featured image by freepik
 

 
If you’re reading this article, I suspect you’re having doubts about a friend of yours and you want answers. Whilst it’s foolish to think our friends are perfect, we don’t expect to feel used, deflated or drained when we spend time with them.
 
Friendships should be balanced relationships. Good friends provide support and helpful advice. They should have our backs, not stab us in the back. Here are 20 signs of an abusive friendship.
 
20 Signs of An Abusive Friendship
 
1. The friendship is one-sided
 
Whether it’s financial or emotional, we want to help our friends and we try our best. But friends that always receive this help and never reciprocate are abusive, and if they do help, it’s such an enormous deal you don’t ask again. They brush off your problems as insignificant and shift the focus back to their own issues.
 
2. They take financial advantage of you
 
Have you lent money to a friend who never pays it back and always gives some sob story when you ask about it? Do you feel sometimes they ask to borrow money and have no intention of ever paying it back? Are you now afraid to refuse because of the consequences?
 
3. You always give in to them
 
Do their needs always come first? Perhaps your suggestions fall on deaf ears or you always end up doing what your friend wants. It’s so common it’s an unwritten rule in your friendship.
 
4. They rely on you too much
 
Needy friends can be just as toxic as abusive friends.
 
I regularly took my friend shopping every week for years because she was a pensioner and didn’t drive. Once the initial ‘Oh you’re so wonderful for helping me’ ended, she complained I wasn’t taking her to her choice of store, even calling me a b***h and implying I was doing it on purpose to wind her up.
 
5. They don’t like your successes
 
“Every time a friend succeeds, I die a little.” – Gore Vidal
 
Genuine friends don’t envy your success, they’re happy for you. Abusive friends are threatened by your achievements because they don’t have your best interests at heart and it makes them feel worse about their lives.
 
6. But revel in your failures
 
Does your friend only want to hear about your failures? Do they get excited when you tell them you’ve had a bad day? Are they invested in the breakup of your intimate relationship but bored when you’re happy with your partner? This is called fake sympathy and a sign of an abusive friendship.
 
7. They exert passive control over you
 
Abuse can be overt or covert. Someone who is passive aggressive doesn’t want to confront you, but they’ll do little things that wind you up without you noticing.
 
For example, your friend is always late, even though they know it annoys you. Or you always end up paying for lunch, even though your friend earns twice your salary. Or they always give you advice, even when you never ask for it. It’s all control.
 
8. You must agree with everything they say
 
Does your friend get angry when you disagree with them? Or maybe they act as if you’re being cruel and siding against them? They expect you to have the same opinions they do and not agree with other people’s points of view if they’re conflicting.
 
9. It’s all about them
 
Sometimes one friend needs more support than the other, and vice versa. This is the natural ebb and flow of a mutually balanced friendship. But when one person must be the center of attention all the time, it’s a sign of an abusive friendship.
 
Ask yourself the following; do they dominate the conversation? Are you always doing the things they want to do? Are you always supporting them with their problems, but they don’t want to know when you’re in difficulty?
 
10. They damage your belongings
 
Has a friend ‘borrowed’ something of yours and returned it damaged? Perhaps they’ve not returned it at all?
 
I had a friend who asked to borrow my cat box to take her cat to the vet. I’d just bought a new one; it was an enormous bright blue box with two doors and a spot for a water bowl. I lent it to my friend. I didn’t get it back for months.
 
When I had to take my cat to the vet, I asked for it back. My friend gave me a small, dirty, secondhand white cat box. I asked where mine was, and they insisted this was the box I’d lent them. When I disagreed, they said,
 
“Do you want me to buy you a new one?”
 
11. They disrespect your boundaries
 
Friends should respect your boundaries. For example, smoking in your car when you don’t allow it, or always turning up when you’re dishing out dinner and expecting to be fed, or regularly outstaying their welcome. Genuine friends respect your boundaries. They don’t make you afraid of saying no.
 
12. Everything’s a competition with them
 
You could have had the worst day/week/month or year; it won’t matter if you’re in an abusive friendship; they’ll outdo you because they want the attention. If you’re tired, they’re exhausted, if you’re sick, they’re booking hospital appointments, if you’re sad, they’re suicidal.
 
They’ll turn a trivial thing into a mega drama that eclipses your problems. And if you don’t play along as an attentive audience member, they’ll lash out at you.
 
13. You never know what mood they’ll be in
 
Fluctuating moods are a subtle control mechanism, and abusive friends use this to manipulate you. People’s moods are typically stable from day to day, but an abusive friend might be on cloud nine one day and depressed the next.
 
You never know where you are with them because they’re so inconsistent, so you end up treading on eggshells and watching what you say in case you trigger a bad mood.
 
14. You can’t trust them
 
Can your friend not keep a secret? Perhaps they’ve revealed something you’re embarrassed about to others? Have you specifically told them not to say anything, but they ignore your wishes? If you confront them, are they sorry or do they dismiss your concerns?
 
15. You can’t rely on them
 
Whether it’s always turning up late, returning borrowed items, or paying you back money, an abusive friend is unreliable. They promise a lot but never deliver, and you keep giving them chances because they’re so convincing with their excuses.
 
16. They are two-faced about people
 
Does your friend constantly badmouth their other friends? If so, you can bet they’re doing the same behind your back, or did you think you were the only one they haven’t got a problem with? I don’t trust so-called friends who slag off their other mates. Why are they friends then?
 
17. Spending time with them leaves you drained
 
Some people are food for the soul. They leave you feeling uplifted, they’re always cheerful, boosting your confidence and making you laugh. Others suck all the joy from the room.
 
These emotional vampires are draining. They’re always complaining, but aren’t interested in solutions. They blow up minor issues into major ones and seem to have problems with everyone and everything in their life. However, they never rectify these problems.
 
18. They are always the victim
 
Well-balanced friends take responsibility for their actions. For instance, they’ll apologize if they’ve upset you. One of the clear signs of an abusive friend is shifting the blame. Abusive friends never take responsibility and even turn the situation around to make them the victim.
 
For example, they might say things like:
  • “I’m such an awful friend. I don’t know why you bother with me.”
  • “I can’t do anything right; I may as well give up.”
 
19. They like to give you advice
 
I have a friend who, whenever I tell her a story, always says,
 
“What you should have done is this.” or “What I would have done is this.”
 
I haven’t even finished the story; she doesn’t know what I’ve done, and I never asked her for her advice. She makes me feel like I’m constantly inadequate and can’t make my own decisions.
 
20. They are mean about you in public
 
My final sign of an abusive friendship concerns how they act around you in public. Are you the butt of your friend’s joke? Do they put you down or humiliate you in public? Do they call you names or insult you when you’re with family or friends?
 
Perhaps you always feel stupid in their company or feel intimidated when you’re with them.
 
What should you do if you recognize signs of an abusive friend?
 
Ask how this person makes you feel about yourself. Do you feel worse after spending time with them? Examine the reasons why this person is your friend; is it because they genuinely enjoy your company or for what they can get from you? Is there anything about the relationship worth saving?
 
I think that if you’ve read through all the above, recognizing signs, you probably already know what you want to do about your friendship. Perhaps you just needed clarification.
 
Final thoughts
 
Think of all the wonderful and unique qualities you offer as a friend. You have value and are under no obligation to stay friends if it’s an abusive friendship.
 
References:
 
Janey Davies
 
 
 
Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind
Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.
 
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My notes: 
  • God the Source is unconditional love, not a zealous god of [some] dogmatic religions.
  • All articles are the responsibility of the respective authors.


Reminder discernment is recommended
from the heart, not from the mind
 
The Truth Within Us, Will Set Us Free. We Are ONE.
No Need of Dogmatic Religions, Political Parties, and Dogmatic Science, linked to a Dark Cabal that Divides to Reign.
Any investigation of a Genuine TRUTH will confirm IT. 
TRUTH need no protection.
 
Question: Why the (fanatics) Zionists are so afraid of any Holocaust investigations?
 

  
 
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01.09.24

How to Respond to Gaslighting:

24 Clever Phrases to Disarm a Manipulator

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on August 31, 2024
 
 

 
 
Have you ever been told you’re too sensitive, you’re crazy, or you’re imagining things? Does it make you doubt yourself? We all experience misunderstandings from time to time, but if this becomes a pattern of behavior it’s likely someone is gaslighting you.
 
Gaslighters want you to respond in one of two ways; back down or lose your cool. Either way, they’re in control, but the key to regaining that control is knowing exactly how to respond to gaslighting. Here are my tips.
 
How to Respond to Gaslighting
 
Remember, gaslighting is someone’s denial of reality that you yourself have observed. Reality is not subjective. It is the facts of what happened and not subject to interpretation. We may react and have opinions, but facts remain unchanged. Therefore, you do yourself no favors by saying things like:
 
“That’s not my experience.” or “I don’t remember it that way.”
 
You’re playing into their narrative. It helps to think of the gaslighter as a child. It makes them much easier to deal with. You wouldn’t indulge a child that was lying or manipulating you. The facts are your weapons. The truth is there. If they want to BS you, call them out directly.
 
When I deal with gaslighters, I imagine I am a wall. Walls don’t give way and they don’t react. I stick to the facts and don’t get emotional. Gaslighters want to frustrate you. Their plan is to wrong-foot you, because keeping you off-balance causes you to second-guess yourself, which ultimately gives them more control over you.
 
Here’s how to respond to gaslighting when they use the following manipulating gaslighting phrases.
 
1. “No one else would put up with you.”
 
Aren’t you fortunate that this person tolerates you? I used to get this crap all the time from my ex-partner. It’s designed to erode your self-esteem until you believe you’re worthless. Once you hit this rock bottom, they can treat you any way they like.
 
Your response:
“If I’m that bad, why do you stay?”
“Yeah well, it works both ways, love.”
“There’s the door.”
 
2. “You’re imagining things.”
 
Twisting reality helps gaslighters avoid responsibility for their actions. It’s also a way of making you question events.
 
Your response:
“I have a wonderful imagination, but I don’t imagine facts.”
“Let’s ask someone who was there.”
“OK. Whatever.”
“I won’t waste time debating reality with you. This is your action and here’s the impact.
 
3. “You’re too sensitive.”
 
Gaslighters commonly employ this tactic to say something awful and evade consequences. Call them out. If this is an intimate partner, remember, they’re supposed to love you and support you, not ridicule or say nasty things to you. What’s their problem?
 
Your response:
“What you’ve said (or done) is mean. I’m right to be upset. Don’t do it again.”
“What you think of me is not my problem.”
“You are too insensitive!”
“Whatever you think, this is how I feel.”
 
4. “I was only joking. God, can’t you take a joke?”
 
Gaslighters hide thinly veiled criticisms or disparaging remarks under the guise of ‘jokes’, then accuse you of having no sense of humor.
 
Your response:
“I’ve got a great sense of humor, thanks. I’m dating you, aren’t I?”
“I can take a joke, but that wasn’t funny. Do you want to try again?”
“If it’s so funny, let’s ask my friends what they think.”
 
5. “You’re just crazy.”
 
This tactic is used to make you question your sanity. Are you remembering things the way they happened or are you forgetting important details? Of course you’re not.
 
Your response:
“Crazy like a fox!”
“I’d like to focus on the facts, not your imagination.”
“I’m confident about my sanity, thank you.”
“That’s BS. You know it, I know it, and everyone else knows it. Stop trying to manipulate me.”
 
6. “I’m telling you this to help you.”
 
As with mean jokes, gaslighters will use harsh criticism to chip away at your confidence, then justify it saying it’s for your own good.
 
Your response:
“I didn’t ask for your advice. Please keep your opinions to yourself in the future.”
“I don’t need your approval.”
“Maybe look at your own life before criticizing mine?”
 
7. “This is all your fault.”
 
Shifting blame and avoiding responsibility is common among gaslighters. For example, they’ll blame you for their infidelity, claiming if you were more attentive, they wouldn’t have cheated.
 
Your response:
“Actually, I can’t make you do anything.”
“I won’t accept the blame when you won’t accept responsibility.”
“If I have such control over you, why is the house such a mess?”
 
How to Respond to Gaslighting When Nothing Works
 
Manipulators will try any trick in the book to undermine you, and getting under your skin will only encourage them. Whilst the above things will shut down or at least deescalate a gaslighter, they’re not infallible.
 
If none of the above suggestions work my only advice is to use the Gray Rock method. This is the most effective way if you want to know how to respond to gaslighting. Don’t respond to their mind games, don’t react, don’t engage, just ignore or block them.
 
Final Thoughts
 
The problem with manipulators is once you’re aware of being manipulated, the damage to your confidence and self-esteem is already done, potentially leaving you unable to retaliate. Hopefully, the above things to say can help you stand up for yourself against the tirade of lies and putdowns.
 
References:
 
Janey Davies
 
 
 
Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind
Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.
 
Copyright © 2012-2024 Learning Mind. All rights reserved. For permission to reprint, contact us.
 

 

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My notes: 
God the Source is unconditional love, not a zealous god of [some] dogmatic religions.

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The Truth Within Us, Will Set Us Free. We Are ONE.
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25.03.21

Seeking truth to be Free!

Joy vs. Happiness: What’s the Difference?
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Making change by Be-ing all that we can Be
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Your intent to be what You are – Love – brings immense peace and healing to all.
Humanity is awakening from the deep sleep of eons, during which you have had some horrendous nightmares, and now is the time to bring an end to those seemingly endless experiences of separation and abandonment which have caused you so much pain and anguish.Life is meant to be joy-filled but, since you chose to experience separa...   https://rayviolet.blogspot.com/2021/03/your-intent-to-be-what-you-are-love.html
 
Just Be
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Israelis Cry Out to the World to Stop Mandatory COVID Injections as Lawsuit is Filed in International Criminal Court Over Nuremberg Code Violation
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Time-waves
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A Vision for Conscious Casual Conversation
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Go for Soul Growth
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Another Gentle Reminder
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LIFE CAN CHANGE IN AN INSTANT
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18.02.21

Things are working out perfectly!
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Revel in Happiness
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Soul Contract
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Believe
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The Universe Has Been Waiting
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You Shall Minister in My Name
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20.09.20

9 Signs of an Authoritarian Personality and How to Deal with It.

By Lauren Edwards-Fowle.

https://www.learning-mind.com/

September 9th, 2020.

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An authoritarian personality can be a complicated, multi-faceted challenge to deal with. It is often a deeply ingrained set of beliefs that take a great deal of time to break down and address.
 
Here we explore what an authoritarian personality means, how you can recognize it, and what you can do if somebody in your life falls into this category.
 
Defining an Authoritarian Personality
 
This type of personality is the subject of a great deal of study and learning throughout the field of psychology, often in the context of understanding why damaging belief systems have been dominant in some parts of the world, at a staggering cost.
 
Authoritarianism derives from believing in a static, unwavering set of rules about power and control, submission, and obedience.
 
Behavioral scientists often link this to fascism and a genuine perception that some people are weak, and others are strong – that some should rule, and others should follow.
 
Some of the overriding ‘tests’ to identify authoritarianism come from Theodor Adorno’s F-scale, published in the last century. In this case, the ‘F’ represents fascism and was created to understand how people become racist.
 
 
Signs of An Authoritarian Characteristic
 
This type of personality is often learned behavior and refers back to a set of rules and standards learned in the early years, thus becoming prevalent as an adult.
 
It sounds intimidating, but often a person who is caught in this cycle of limiting beliefs can find it extremely difficult to speak about it, try to relearn their perspective of the world, and train their brain to perceive people in a new light.
 
While it is easy to feel distrust and dislike towards authoritarian people, we must also consider why they think the way they do and be prepared to be a part of changing their mindset for the better.
 
Signs you might identify include:
 
1. Dominance
 
A dominant, aggressive, and intolerant person who cannot accept people different from themselves – whether in the way they work, their lifestyle, or their own belief systems. Individuals who must be in control at all times and crave power and authority.
2. Cynicism
 
Cynical people who view the world through a veil of discord and discontentment.
 
3. Superiority Complex
 
Those who genuinely believe themselves to be superior to others without having a tangible or quantifiable reason for this superiority complex.
 
This can manifest in terms of discrimination, racism, and extreme offense towards others – for example, a person who doesn’t look like them, or lives a lifestyle they consider unacceptable.
 
4. Unwavering beliefs
 
An authoritarian person believes in a fixed set of rights and wrongs and cannot look beyond those rules or see the grey areas between the black and white boundaries they have established.
5. Hostility
 
People who think in this way will be very fast to judge and condemn anybody who disagrees, are intolerant of other ideas, or less rigid ideologies.
 
6. Fearfulness
 
An authoritarian person is trapped inside their beliefs, and for many, it seems impossible ever to be able to relax their mindset.
 
They thrive on fear, power, and control – deeming anybody of whom they do not ‘approve’ to be a threat that should be eliminated.
 
7. Aggression
 
People who think like this tend to lack emotional intelligence and, therefore, the maturity to appreciate other perspectives.
 
Consequently, they struggle with empathy and may become angry and frustrated very quickly.
 
8. Prejudice
 
Prejudice is a crippling thought process and one that can be extremely difficult to break down. Authoritarian people cannot listen to any opinion other than their own.
 
9. Inability to Reason
 
If you have a fixed mindset that cannot be changed, you can also not listen to reason, explain your thought processes, or rationalize your belief systems coherently.
 
They are merely there, and no amount of reasoning will help you break out of it.
 
How to Deal with Authoritarian People
 
All in all, an authoritarian personality is rarely pleasant to be around. However, what can you do if you encounter somebody like this, or have a personal relationship with them, and need to find a way to counter their destructive mindset or help them to see another perspective?
 
 
Here are a few tips to make the relationship more manageable:
 
Don’t take it personally
 
They can’t help but abide by the stringent set of rules in their head; never let it get to you.
 
Try to understand their way of doing things
 
Try to see things from their perspective even if you disagree with it. You can quickly make peace by trying to get to grips with what things act as a trigger, much as you would with a person struggling with a mental health condition.
 
Build a relationship over time
 
This is mainly true if you are in a workplace environment. If there are specific tasks that must be done in a particular way, learn how to do them, and don’t challenge their requirements unless it is fundamentally against your own belief system.
 
Stand your ground when you need to
 
Gather allies who understand the challenge that an authoritarian personality presents. While you can adopt techniques to accept and appreciate their limiting nature, you don’t have to bend to it.
 
And if the authoritarian person is someone you are close to? They almost certainly need professional support to try and unpick their thought processes.
 
That isn’t something that can happen quickly or painlessly, so if you know an authoritarian person who is willing to change, they will need all the help they can get to do so.
 
Remember – most of our belief systems are taught and learned, and often not a conscious choice. Try to be understanding and help them work through the unlearning of this toxic mindset. It will definitely be worth it.
 
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16.09.20

5 Reasons INFJ Personality Type Is So Hard to Understand.

By Kirstie Pursey

September 16th, 2019. 

 
 
 
INFJ personality type is rare and complex. This makes it hard for others to understand them. In fact, we INFJ’s often have a hard time understanding ourselves!
 
INFJ is one of the types of Myers-Briggs personality types. Myers-Briggs types are a popular classification of different types of personality. It uses one main principle at its core: do you prefer one trait over another?
 
One of the reasons INFJ personality type is so difficult to understand is that many of our characteristics seem completely contradictory. There is a constant conflict between our inner and outer worlds. At times it is like we are two different people. It can be very confusing for the INFJ, as we often don’t quite know what it is we want or need.
 
Here are five of the most puzzling aspects of the INFJ personality type:
 
1. We love alone time, yet desperately need to be with people
 
Because INFJ’s are introverted they are primarily focused on their internal life. However, because they are also feeling, they have an external focus on the world around them.
 
This means that while they are introverted, they also have a real need for companionship and close bonds with others. This conflict also shows itself in their need to be private, even secretive, but also extremely sensitive warm and caring towards others.
 
This can be difficult for others to understand and it may seem that we are blowing hot and cold in our relationships. For the INFJ, this can be confusing, too. They might block a whole day to be alone and recharge only to wake up feeling desperate for deep meaningful conversations with others. These changes in mood can be disorientating, some INFJs even worry that they have a mood disorder.
 
2. We are easy going but also perfectionists
 
INFJ personality type is both intuitive and judging, two more traits that can appear contradictory. This can mean that at times we are easy going and relaxed. Often we may be seen as a calm and serene person, however inside we are sometimes anything but.
 
This is because our judging aspect leads us to have perfectionist tendencies and a strong value system. While we may long to be spontaneous and follow our intuition, we are held back by our need for order and control. 
 
This can mean we make many plans and lists, but often rebel against the rigid order we have imposed upon ourselves.
 
3. We are artistic but also rational
 
While INFJs are often very artistic, there is often a conflict between their creative and rational sides. We often have lots of ideas, but we criticize and judge them too soon before they have had a chance to really develop. For this reason, we may have a lot of half-finished projects.
 
Because we are sensitive, we also find it hard to share our work with others in case they are critical. Our artistic work is our way of expressing our inner world, which makes criticism or judgment feel very personal. As a result, we often repress our creative nature.
 
This can lead to us being very unhappy. We need to express ourselves in creative ways and feel like we are only living half a life when we don’t.
 
4. We are both messy and tidy
 
Because INFJ’s have a judging trait, we love to have beautiful surroundings. We like to artistically arrange and organize things. However, once again there can be conflict. We often wish we could be more spontaneous and embrace the chaos.
 
Sometimes, we find our own rigid need for organization and plans hard to bear. We may also be constantly assessing our priorities and making lists and plans which the more intuitive part of us usually fails to keep. This means we swing from desiring to follow our intuition and live spontaneously with fearing failure and being criticized by others.
 
Because of this, though we strive for tidiness, we rarely achieve it because as soon as it is done we are rearranging and sorting and making a big mess all over again.
5. We stand up for other but not ourselves
 
As INFJ’s we will always stand up for those weaker than ourselves. We have a strong sense of justice. If we see something we don’t think is fair we have the courage of a lion. We will argue and fight for justice to prevail.
 
However, we often fail to stand up for ourselves. This can come from a lack of self-esteem, but it can also be because we hate to make others unhappy or cause a conflict that we will struggle to deal with. This is yet another reason why we need so much time alone because we are often exhausted by attending to the needs of others around us.
 
Being an INFJ personality type is difficult; there is no doubt about it. But understanding our special personalities can help us to live a happier life.
 
When we see that these are aspects of our personalities we are often reassured because we may have previously thought there is something wrong with us, such as a mood disorder or other mental illness.
 
Studying our personality type and making time to attend to our needs can transform our lives from a constant struggle to one of flow. This can help us and make the most of our unique personalities and gifts.
 

About the Author: Kirstie Pursey



Kirstie works as a writer, blogger and storyteller and lives in London with her family of people, dogs and cats. She is a lover of reading, writing, being in nature, fairy lights, candles, firesides and afternoon tea. Kirstie has trouble sitting still which is why she created www.notmeditating.com to share techniques and practices for tuning out the busy mind. She is also the author of Not Meditating: Finding Peace, Love and Happiness Without Sitting Still.
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15.09.20

7 Traits of ISFP Personality Type:

Are You ‘The Adventurer’?

Becky Storey.

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September 14th, 2020


 
 
The ISFP personality type is one of the 16 types identified using the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). Every individual belongs to one of the types, based on their unique ways of thinking and viewing the world.
 
The ISFP is considered to be the artistic, adventurous, and easy-going personality type. People who are of the ISFP personality type tend to be more free-spirited and open than the others.
 

7 Traits of ISFP Personality

 
1. A Warm Presence
 
People who are the ISFP personality type often have a sense of warmth about them. They are cheerful and the people around them pick up on this. They are calming to be around and put both their loved ones and strangers at ease.
 
ISPF people are deeply empathetic. This allows them to connect to and understand the feelings of everyone they cross paths with. They are natural nurturers, often providing a shoulder to cry on for friends and family. Their non-judgemental attitude encourages others to confide in them and feel accepted.
 
The emotional intelligence that an ISFP person has lends itself to a successful career in an industry that requires caregiving. Many ISFP people make excellent teachers, health care workers, social workers, and vets.
 
2. Introversion
 
People of the ISFP personality type make great friends. They are usually charming and excellent company.
 
Their friendly, approachable nature makes ISFP people appear extroverted at times, but in reality, they fit into the small group of people who do enjoy socialising but are still introverted. While they can still have fun and feel confident around other people, their energy requires alone time to be replenished.
 
Instead of using their alone time to dwell on insecurities, mistakes, the past, or the future, ISFP people live in the moment. Their downtime is used to reflect on themselves as they are in the present.
 
3. An Adventurous Spirit
 
The ISFP personality type is also known as “The Adventurer”. People of this type are usually drawn to excitement and spontaneity, in particular. They often feel the need to escape from boring day to day activities. This usually means rarely staying in the same place for very long. Their need to do something on the wild side drives a lot of their choices.
 
Activities like long spontaneous road trips appeal to the ISFP personality type. Last-minute adventures satisfy their need to be on the move and seeking excitement, while always taking in new experiences. Some people of the ISFP type choose adrenaline-fuelled sports to get their adventure fix too.
 
4. Don’t Think about the Future
 
While some of us dwell on thoughts of the future, the ISFP personality type couldn’t be further from that. People of the ISFP type live in the moment and actively choose not to think much about what’s in front of them. They are of the mindset that the future can’t be controlled much, so why ruin the present by overthinking what’s to come?
 
Instead of planning and dwelling on future possibilities, ISFP people choose to focus on what they can do now to better themselves. They pay attention to what they can do to improve their lives at present, and if that benefits their future, even better.
 
5. Creativity
 
Those of the ISFP personality type are likely to be more creative than their peers. Often, this personality lends itself to a career that involves creative pursuits. Artists, musicians, designers, and chefs often fall into the ISFP category, including many talented celebrities.
 
The creativity of an ISFP person isn’t limited to “artistic” pursuits either. They thrive in all sorts of hands-on, practical work that involves any kind of down-to-earth activity. This might include outdoor work like gardening or forestry or building work such as carpentry.
 
6. Needs More Than Just “A Job”
 
Due to the ISFP’s free-spirited nature, most “normal” jobs won’t satisfy them. They don’t enjoy rigid routines. They require a flexible lifestyle to feel happy. Their freedom is essential.
 
Most ISFP people find themselves self-employed or working a job that doesn’t require them to be present in an office from 9-5. If their job doesn’t allow them as much flexibility as they need, they’ll likely feel starved of time to enjoy their creative pursuits and hobbies.
 
Whatever work they do, flexible or not, must be emotionally fulfilling. They’re very unlikely to take on work just for the money if it doesn’t satisfy them fully. They need to know that whatever they choose has some sense of purpose.
 
7. Always Changing
 
Typically, someone of the ISFP personality type is very open-minded. Of all the personality types, they are most likely to consider alternative perspectives to their own. They enjoy learning about different cultures and experiences of the world and are happy to use them to reinvent themselves.
 
They tend to enjoy experimenting with their own sense of the world. This might involve travelling a lot to gather new perspectives, integrating themselves with new communities. They may also regularly change their own appearance, testing out new ways to be themselves.
 
At its core, the ISFP personality type is a category for people who are free spirits with a go with the flow attitude. They are open-minded and accepting of everyone and have an innate ability to care and nurture.
 
While they might be exciting and out-going in social situations, they are also deeply introverted. Their contrary personality makes them harm to pin-down. They like to spend time with their loved ones and can be intense and adventurous, but at the end of the day, they’ll need to decompress.
 
This personality type makes an excellent friend, travel buddy, and life partner.
 
 

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8 Signs of a Bitter Person: 

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Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

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September 12th, 2020.

 
 

I know what being a bitter person feels like. When I read through the signs or listen to the testimony of others, I recognize myself.
 
I’m not proud of being bitter. I don’t think anyone is happy about having these feelings. But, unfortunately, many of us have feelings of unforgiveness, hatred, and loneliness – in short, these words embody the bitter mindset.
 
Having a bitter personality doesn’t mean being a bad person. However, they’ve just had enough of the world’s crap and how they’ve been treated in the past. I can attest that I’ve had a rather difficult time not being suffocated by these feelings.
 
 
Signs you may be a bitter person
 
So, I guess you’re wondering if you could possibly be a little bitter, huh? Well, the only way to gauge yourself in this area is to recognize the signs within your own life. Unlike some other complicated mindsets and issues, the signs of bitterness are a little easier to see. At least, I think so.
 
Anyway, you can browse through the signs and see if you fall into the category of being a bitter person.
 
1. Avoiding positive people
 
I think most people do this without thinking. When bitterness is in your heart, and other people seem really happy, you tend to avoid them. Why do you do this? Well, if you’re not happy and they are, your bitterness becomes stronger.
 
You get angry about not being able to feel the happiness that others do. You get depressed because the past has robbed you of so much power of good self-esteem. Positive people can literally make you cringe when you’re a person riddled with bitterness. You should be able to pick up on this indicator immediately.
 
2. Achievements seem small
 
The truth is, a bitter person could have many achievements in their life, but they just don’t see it that way. If you are bitter, you may downplay the good things you’ve done. They may seem insignificant to you compared to the bad things that have occurred.
 
Maybe you’ve won awards or snagged great jobs, well, these things will seem small in comparison to how people treated you in the past. It’s closely related to how you feel about yourself in general.
 
3. Judgemental
 
A bitter person is judgemental on a regular basis. If you catch yourself talking about people all the time and the things they’re doing wrong, then this fits with the judgemental mentality. You may even call people negative or nasty names because you are so angry with them.
 
You feel cheated, hurt, and damaged, and so, you easily pass judgment on those who’ve hurt you. Here’s where the judgment crosses the line: you talk about others who’ve done nothing to you. It’s honestly like an infectious disease. Talking bad about people just spreads and spreads until you’re talking about everyone in a negative light.
 
4. Staying away from everyone
 
Not only do bitter people stay away from positive people, they eventually just stay away from everyone. They stay away from events and other social functions as well.
 
Now, let me clear something up, being bitter isn’t the same as being an introvert. An introvert likes being alone but doesn’t necessarily have hate in their heart, while be a bitter person avoids people and actively dislikes them. There is a difference. If you find yourself angry with everyone and refusing all invitations, you might be a bitter individual.
 
5. Generalizations
 
A bitter person will generalize things. If someone hurts them, they won’t focus on the individual, they will focus on entire groups that have similar characteristics. This can even bleed into ethnic and gender generalizations. If you notice that you’re generalizing about a whole gender or ethnic group, then you’ve definitely become bitter about something rather devastating.
 
However, what happened isn’t supposed to make you generalize about the guilty person’s race or sex. No one should be categorized because of what they do. Making generalizations is a huge red flag of bitterness.
 
6. Grudges, grudges, and more grudges
 
Bitter people know how to hold a grudge, and I’ve done this. Let me warn you, holding a grudge can damage your life in ways you cannot imagine. For instance, if you stay mad at a relative and refuse to talk to them or see them, you could regret this.
 
What’s the reason for this monumental regret, you may ask? What if that relative dies and you’ve never gotten around to making amends? I’ve watched this happen on numerous occasions, just because two people were incredibly bitter. If you’re holding grudges, then you’re just being a bitter person.
 
7. Change is hard
 
Bitter people have the hardest time changing things about themselves. They often think that the world owes them happiness, and they shouldn’t have to change to grasp that happiness they want.
 
Are you waiting to be happy while harboring hatred in your heart? If so, then a bitter vine has wrapped itself around the foundation of who you are. As frightening as this may sound, it’s just the raw truth.
 
8. Anger and hatred
 
Although I’ve loosely covered these two feelings, I have to reiterate their power in a bitter personality. If you notice that you’re angry at everything and have hatred inside, bitterness is growing. The amount of hatred a person can hold is immense and can blind you to any good and fulfilling aspects of life.
 
A bitter person will act hatefully and always seem angry. Even if it’s just this seething undertone, you will notice this in yourself.
 
Can we stop being bitter? Is it possible?
 
All things are possible with determination and the right mindset. Just remember, dealing with your bitterness is your responsibility. Although others may want to help, it’s up to you to get better. Bitterness is a strong feeling, but it can be countered by pouring lots of love into every single day.
 
If you practice saying positive things when you wake up in the morning, that’s a start. You should try forgiveness too, as soon as possible, so that you cut a few more of those bitter branches from around your heart. Help people as well because this transfers bitter feelings into fulfillment. You can help them and in turn, it produces usefulness and hope.
 
Also, be the first one to step forward when it involves grudges. This is difficult, but if you do it, you will feel a release from the pressure of holding that grudge. After all, staying mad takes lots of work, and it zaps your energy. What’s more, it damages your health to stay bitter, so you have to work on this.
 
I know that you will come up with more creative ways to kill the bitterness inside. Hey, I’m right here with you. I have struggled with being a bitter person on and off for quite some time. I get discouraged, but I know that I have the strength and willpower to overcome this demon. I know you have that same strength too.
 
You can do this.
 
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