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How to Become Happier: 7 Simple Everyday Tips.

Setembro 19, 2020

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How to Become Happier: 

7 Simple Everyday Tips.

By Valerie Soleil, B.A., LL.B.

learning-mind.com.

September 18th, 2020.

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If you want to learn how to become happier, the following science-backed methods will help you a lot.

One of the theories in the field of psychology claims that all people have a “starting point” of happiness, which defines their wellness. All our life revolves around it and the fact if we feel more or less happy depends on what is happening in our daily lives. But we can “reboot” our minds.

While the world may or may not be in worse trouble than it’s been before, you can still feel good in life. You can do little things like exercising, eating well, meditation, writing, getting enough sleep, and self-affirmation.


While these simple practices may not transform life on planet Earth, they can show you how to become happier, feel more at home here, and begin to appreciate and enjoy your life more.

Let’s take a moment to explore each of these options.

1. Getting Enough Sleep

Sleep is restorative, and if you don’t get enough, your body does not have enough time to heal and catch up with its metabolic housework. While it may seem to be productive to work more and sleep less, this is not a sustainable way to live. Don’t try to get by on 6 hours if you need 8 or 9 hours to get a good night’s rest.

2. Eating well

While there is no shortage of delicious food, this is not exactly what is meant by the phrase, “eating well.” Tasty food— which is often high in salt, sugar, and fats — also throws your metabolism out of balance. These high-calorie, low-nutrient foods don’t give your body the right proportion of macro- and micro-nutrients. As a result, you feel tired after a meal, not replenished and refueled.

Eating well, then, refers to eating foods closer to nature — fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, beans, organic meats, etc. Your body knows what to do with these foods, but it has no idea how to process a common sweetener like high fructose corn syrup.

3. Meditation

Meditation is a broad term. You can just sit in a quiet place relaxing and letting go of intrusive thoughts. It’s like rebooting a computer, which is processing an excessive number of tasks simultaneously.

However, many people find meditation difficult. It’s not because meditation itself is difficult – after all, it’s the art of doing nothing more than breathing, visualizing, or repeating a mantra while sitting perfectly still – but because they are trying too hard to do it right.

In addition, there are many religions that use meditation, which creates quite a bit of confusion about the practice itself. If you’re not a religious person, you feel you’re being hoodwinked into adopting erroneous belief systems.

If you belong to organized religion, you wonder if you’re betraying your faith. And if you do happen to belong to a religion that believes in meditation, then you’re always dismayed at not clearing your mind of thoughts and feeling a sense of oneness with all sentient beings.

Here are 4 tips to put your mind at ease (no pun intended):
  1. Forget about doing it right. Meditation is not about performance.
  2. Choose the type of meditation you find easy to do.
  3. Realize that meditation does not belong to any religion but is merely a practice that many Eastern religions have found helpful in promoting spiritual insights. You can even meditate if you’re an atheist to calm your mind and provoke the relaxation response.
  4. Think of the mind as a bucket and thoughts and feelings as sand swirling in the bucket. By meditating, you allow the sand to settle to the bottom of the bucket and your mind now becomes still and peaceful.

4. Writing

Writing can be a way of sorting through your ideas to get clarity. It’s useful even if you don’t plan to be a published writer. You can write in your journal about your day or as a way to figure things out.

You can also write what’s called Morning Pages. This idea, introduced by Julia Cameron in The Artists Way helps free up mental and emotional clutter. Cameron explains:

“Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning.”

5. Exercise

Exercise has a direct effect on your mood. By joining a fitness class, you not only get to hang out with like-minded people and engage in a fun activity, but you’ll also build muscle, burn fat, improve flexibility, and stimulate feel-good hormones like serotonin and dopamine.

Thus, it is recommended to work out or do any other kind of physical activity for at least 15-30 minutes a day. Aerobic exercise (for example, jogging) is shown to have a powerful antidepressant effect.
6. Self-affirmation and effort

Our beliefs are like the software that runs our minds. In order to clear erroneous beliefs, we can use another piece of software called self-affirmations.

Happy people consider happiness a lifetime goal, writes leading psychologist Tom G. Stevens in his book ‘You can choose to be happy‘. To do this, we must re-evaluate our beliefs and values, work on our self-control, and be in an environment that encourages positive feelings.

Suppose, for example, you were disinterested in class when you were little and because teachers, parents, and fellow students labeled you as stupid. This is a damaging belief because it limits your ability to learn new ideas. By using an affirmation like, “I quickly solve difficult problems and have a great memory,” you slowly begin to erase the erroneous beliefs that others fostered upon you.

Affirmations might work partly because even the slightest effort to become happier can have significant effects on your life. Two small pilot studies published in the scientific journal Journal of Positive Psychology show that the participants who tried to become happy enjoyed a better mood and increased wellness.

7. Practice gratitude and enjoy the little things in life

Neuropsychologist Rick Hanson claims that the human brain responds automatically to negative events and this response is even stronger than when we experience positive things. But we can reverse this negative tendency by practicing gratitude and appreciating the small joys of life.

Indeed, a study published in the journal Social Behavior and Personality shows that gratitude is a habit that can be developed and makes us enjoy life more.

Moreover, did you know that even a simple smile of gratitude can significantly boost your mood and make you happier? A study conducted at Michigan State University shows that people who smile often and make happy thoughts tend to be in a good mood and do not give up easily.

As such, psychologist Robert Emmons recommends writing down three things you are grateful for every day. For example, you could write about how much your friends and family mean to you. It could look like a trivial exercise, but according to Dr. Emmons, a daily reminder of the reasons to be grateful for ‘infects’ people with optimism about the future.

Another great way to practice the attitude of gratitude and positivity would be to think about your achievements for the last 24 hours at the end of the day. Why is this important? Because when you praise yourself and cultivate positive thinking, it boosts your self-confidence and motivates you for further achievements.

Final thoughts about happiness

You may not realize it, but each day, you have many opportunities to become happier. Yes, if you are to believe the politicians and the press, the world has never been in a worse condition.

That’s probably what people thought in ancient Athens, too, when the Spartans were delivering ominous threats, or in Rome when the Visigoths were marching toward the capital.

By trying out these 7 ideas that show you how to become happier, you can stop worrying about the state of the world, have a better mood, and, finally, start experiencing greater self-fulfillment. People have been frustrated since the beginning of recorded history, but you can choose to set yourself free from intrusive thoughts.

Valerie Soleil

 


 
About the Author: Valerie Soleil, B.A., LL.B.


Valerie Soleil is a writer with over 5 years of experience and holds a bachelor degree in law and a B.A. in Psychology. She is a physical & mental health enthusiast who constantly expands her knowledge about the mysteries of the human body and mind. Some of the activities Valerie is particularly passionate about are traveling and reading because they help her broaden her horizons.
 
 
 
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5 Reasons INFJ Personality Type Is So Hard to Understand.

Setembro 16, 2020

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5 Reasons INFJ Personality Type Is So Hard to Understand.

By Kirstie Pursey

September 16th, 2019. 

 
 
 
INFJ personality type is rare and complex. This makes it hard for others to understand them. In fact, we INFJ’s often have a hard time understanding ourselves!
 
INFJ is one of the types of Myers-Briggs personality types. Myers-Briggs types are a popular classification of different types of personality. It uses one main principle at its core: do you prefer one trait over another?
 
One of the reasons INFJ personality type is so difficult to understand is that many of our characteristics seem completely contradictory. There is a constant conflict between our inner and outer worlds. At times it is like we are two different people. It can be very confusing for the INFJ, as we often don’t quite know what it is we want or need.
 
Here are five of the most puzzling aspects of the INFJ personality type:
 
1. We love alone time, yet desperately need to be with people
 
Because INFJ’s are introverted they are primarily focused on their internal life. However, because they are also feeling, they have an external focus on the world around them.
 
This means that while they are introverted, they also have a real need for companionship and close bonds with others. This conflict also shows itself in their need to be private, even secretive, but also extremely sensitive warm and caring towards others.
 
This can be difficult for others to understand and it may seem that we are blowing hot and cold in our relationships. For the INFJ, this can be confusing, too. They might block a whole day to be alone and recharge only to wake up feeling desperate for deep meaningful conversations with others. These changes in mood can be disorientating, some INFJs even worry that they have a mood disorder.
 
2. We are easy going but also perfectionists
 
INFJ personality type is both intuitive and judging, two more traits that can appear contradictory. This can mean that at times we are easy going and relaxed. Often we may be seen as a calm and serene person, however inside we are sometimes anything but.
 
This is because our judging aspect leads us to have perfectionist tendencies and a strong value system. While we may long to be spontaneous and follow our intuition, we are held back by our need for order and control. 
 
This can mean we make many plans and lists, but often rebel against the rigid order we have imposed upon ourselves.
 
3. We are artistic but also rational
 
While INFJs are often very artistic, there is often a conflict between their creative and rational sides. We often have lots of ideas, but we criticize and judge them too soon before they have had a chance to really develop. For this reason, we may have a lot of half-finished projects.
 
Because we are sensitive, we also find it hard to share our work with others in case they are critical. Our artistic work is our way of expressing our inner world, which makes criticism or judgment feel very personal. As a result, we often repress our creative nature.
 
This can lead to us being very unhappy. We need to express ourselves in creative ways and feel like we are only living half a life when we don’t.
 
4. We are both messy and tidy
 
Because INFJ’s have a judging trait, we love to have beautiful surroundings. We like to artistically arrange and organize things. However, once again there can be conflict. We often wish we could be more spontaneous and embrace the chaos.
 
Sometimes, we find our own rigid need for organization and plans hard to bear. We may also be constantly assessing our priorities and making lists and plans which the more intuitive part of us usually fails to keep. This means we swing from desiring to follow our intuition and live spontaneously with fearing failure and being criticized by others.
 
Because of this, though we strive for tidiness, we rarely achieve it because as soon as it is done we are rearranging and sorting and making a big mess all over again.
5. We stand up for other but not ourselves
 
As INFJ’s we will always stand up for those weaker than ourselves. We have a strong sense of justice. If we see something we don’t think is fair we have the courage of a lion. We will argue and fight for justice to prevail.
 
However, we often fail to stand up for ourselves. This can come from a lack of self-esteem, but it can also be because we hate to make others unhappy or cause a conflict that we will struggle to deal with. This is yet another reason why we need so much time alone because we are often exhausted by attending to the needs of others around us.
 
Being an INFJ personality type is difficult; there is no doubt about it. But understanding our special personalities can help us to live a happier life.
 
When we see that these are aspects of our personalities we are often reassured because we may have previously thought there is something wrong with us, such as a mood disorder or other mental illness.
 
Studying our personality type and making time to attend to our needs can transform our lives from a constant struggle to one of flow. This can help us and make the most of our unique personalities and gifts.
 

About the Author: Kirstie Pursey
Kirstie works as a writer, blogger and storyteller and lives in London with her family of people, dogs and cats. She is a lover of reading, writing, being in nature, fairy lights, candles, firesides and afternoon tea. Kirstie has trouble sitting still which is why she created www.notmeditating.com to share techniques and practices for tuning out the busy mind. She is also the author of Not Meditating: Finding Peace, Love and Happiness Without Sitting Still.
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Why Family Betrayal Is the Most Painful and How to Cope with It

Setembro 16, 2020

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Why Family Betrayal Is the Most Painful and How to Cope with It

Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

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September 16th, 2020.
 
 
 
Of all the hurts accumulated throughout life, family betrayal is the worst. When your own relatives turn against you, it’s almost unbearable.
 
When I was a child, I was abused. When my parents found out, many years later, they turned a blind eye to my pain. Why? because of something stupid. What makes it worse is they are dead now, and I may never really understand how they could have done this. When your family turns their back on you, it’s like torment.
 
Why is family betrayal so hard to deal with?
 
There’s physical pain, which, in time, it heals. There’s the pain of mental illness and the pain of trauma, which is like neverending darkness. But when your own mother, father, or other family members betray you in your darkest hour, it’s a pain that’s hard to describe. But I will try, I will attempt to share a few reasons why this pain is the worst.
 
1. Close relationships
 
Families are supposed to be tight-knit and loyal to each other. Unlike the average Joe on the street, a sister is supposed to be there for you. Your brother is supposed to be trustworthy. Your mother and father are supposed to stand in the gap for you and fight.
 
When this doesn’t happen in your family for some reason, the betrayal is deep. If you cannot trust your family, you probably feel like you cannot trust many others either.
 
2. It’s so confusing
 
Let’s say your husband cheated, and you chose to forgive him, but then he did it again. He has proven that his infidelity is not a mistake, rather a choice.
 
This is confusing because you are supposed to be closer to each other than any other member of your household. Your partner has betrayed you, regardless of a commitment. Betrayal breaks this bond and leaves you wondering why you didn’t see it coming. It leaves you confused.
 
3. It’s demeaning
 
I once told a family member that it hurt more thinking I was stupid than what they did to me. Basically, when a cousin or brother, for instance, deceives or lies to you, they assume you will believe. They give you no credit for being able to see through the thin veneer of falsehood.
 
Family members know each other pretty well, and they know when they are being betrayed. It hurts immeasurably for a loved one to think you are stupid enough to allow this hurt.
 
How can you cope with family betrayal?
 
So, they tricked you. They fooled, lied, and left you to pick up the pieces of your tainted relationship. So, what can you do now? Well, there are a few ways you can cope with this in a healthy manner. The hurt doesn’t go away, but your life must go on.
 
1. Forgiveness
 
Yes, I said it. You must forgive them. Now, this doesn’t mean you cannot remember and still try to work through your feelings about the incident. This is especially true if the one who betrayed you is no longer living.
 
You’ve probably heard the old saying about forgiveness being more for your own benefit than for theirs, and this is true. Not forgiving the ones who’ve caused you pain will cultivate bitterness in your life.
 
2. Distance
 
As for those who are still among the living, after forgiveness comes distance. Some of those people who betrayed you must be loved from afar. You cannot submerge yourself in a close relationship with someone you cannot trust. Care about them, yes, but try to limit time spent with them for your own well-being.
 
3. No revenge
 
Remember, forgiveness is number one, right. This means you cannot try and avenge yourself after what they’ve done to you. I know you want to, but it’s simply unhealthy.
 
By being vengeful, you are lowering yourself to their level. You cannot get revenge without feeling regret for your actions afterward, and I don’t care how tough you think you are. This is your family I’m talking about.
 
4. Analyze the betrayal
 
If you can stand to think of what happened to you, face your family member. They may deny or avoid the questions but do it anyway. In short, I can tell you this: You are not the problem, they are. Family members who betray are dealing with something inside themselves, not really a problem with you.
 
As for me, my parents didn’t report my abuse because they didn’t want to cause problems with the man who abused me or disturb his family. Now, knowing that made me even angrier, but at least I know they were cowards and dysfunctional people, even though I loved them.
 
5. Emotional control
 
When I was betrayed, I wasn’t as emotional as I have been in the last few months. I don’t think I ever come to terms with my parent’s looks of apathy. I couldn’t read their minds, but it sure seemed like my trauma was considered and then quickly pushed behind them.
 
For the past months, I’ve grieved over those things until finally taking back control over my emotions. Eventually, no matter how long it takes, you have to control yourself. You have to understand that it isn’t your fault that they failed you, whatever the case may be.
 
6. Cope according to status
 
You will have to cope with the hurt according to how close you are to the family member. While it may not be as hard to deal with a conniving cousin, it can be devastating to deal with a pathologically lying wife.
 
You can forgive all of them, but some may not be as easy to get away from as others. Deal accordingly, and this will help you understand how to draw boundaries from now on. Yes, you can draw boundaries with your spouse. In other words, learn who you can trust.
 
7. Talk to someone
 
It’s best that you don’t hold all this inside. I’ve tried to keep my pain a secret, but you see, I’ve told you all. I’ve also told a few of my close family and friends about the trauma and the betrayal. You see, family betrayal is not something you need to deal with on your own. Other people can help you hash out the details and understand what to do.
 
Finally letting go
 
That’s it. You have to finally learn to let go of what happened to you, even if you were hurt and then hurt again. It doesn’t matter how many times life sears you with pain, you have to release the unforgiveness right there in your chest and let the love come back.
 
Family betrayal, as you see, is traumatic in its own right, so always remember to take care of yourself during and after the conflicts. Healing may take a while, but it’s always worth it.
 
 
After all, I’ve harbored these feelings for decades. Don’t do this to yourself. I want better for you.
 
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Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
Staff writer at Learning Mind
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple types of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.

 

 

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Discernment yes; judgment does not.
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6 Ways Men with Low Self-Esteem Struggle in Life

Setembro 10, 2020

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6 Ways Men with Low Self-Esteem Struggle in Life

By Lauren Edwards-Fowle.

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September 9th, 2020.



When we talk about confidence, we often center those conversations around women – but what about men with low self-esteem?

Increasingly, our awareness of mental health issues is expanding to recognize that everybody can suffer from anxieties. These can be debilitating not just for the sufferer but also for the people close to them.


Let’s think about why men might suffer from a lack of confidence and how this impacts their everyday lives.
Reasons for Low Self-Esteem in Men

There is a multitude of reasons that guys might struggle with their confidence levels, and this insecurity can change over time.

One of the most prevalent issues is around toxic masculinity, and how many generations conform to stereotypes in their early years, and thus find it difficult to function as a well-grounded, emotionally aware man.

For example, male superiority can be exaggerated in sports or the workplace. Being a great team player and a sensitive listener are drowned out by the competition to be a bold leader and deal with problems without asking for help.

Other prominent reasons men can suffer from low self-esteem include:
Body image issues and feeling pressure from social media and their peers to reflect an ‘ideal’ body.
Past issues around abuse or mental illness that have not been resolved, and that have left someone unable to be kind to themselves.
Patterns of behavior leave a man to feel inadequate, underperforming, or not ‘male’ enough.

In some cases, low self-esteem is simply a character trait – but make no mistake; this can be harmful in many ways and cause lasting damage to relationships.
6 Signs of Men with Low Self-Esteem

You can spot a guy who struggles with recognizing his self-worth in several ways.

This often comes out in personal relationships where it is easier to notice signs of hypercritical or exacting behavior.


Examples of signs that indicate men with low self-esteem include:
An inability to cope with stress, criticism, or advice from others.
Emotional insecurity and a constant need to be reassured.
Needing external validation about their physical appearance.
Seeming to be arrogant or being tactless when they succeed.
Being jealous and possessive or needing to be the center of attention.
Making self-deprecating remarks and finding it equally hard to accept praise.

These are signs that a man is struggling with confidence and deflects or tries to hide those emotions by masking his true feelings.
How Low Self-Esteem Can Impact Your Life

If a man lacks self-esteem and doesn’t seek help to process these feelings, it can cause many impacts, some more severe than others.

The most common things that these guys might struggle with are:
1. Workplace success

It will always be hard to get along with colleagues or feel comfortable in your work if you are continually playing a game of one-upmanship.
2. Forming lasting relationships

Men who aren’t happy in themselves rarely make positive partners. This can manifest as intense criticisms both of themselves and their partner, making cynical jibes and always needing to be in control.
3. Sharing decision making

When someone struggles with confidence, they often mask this by putting on a brave face – which often comes across as arrogance.


Imagine being so insecure in your masculinity that you can never ask for help or rely on anybody else to make a choice in case it exposes your lack of self-esteem. This can turn into obsessive control, which can cause problems in every area of your life.
4. Social anxiety

From being able to put on gym clothes and go for a workout, to being able to ask someone for directions if you are lost, a person with cripplingly low confidence levels may hold themselves back from any new experiences.
5. Needing continuous reassurance

It depends on where the self-esteem issue comes from. Still, a man who lacks it may seek continual and repetitive validation – from praising their looks to celebrating their successes, every small triumph becomes a big deal. This can create narcissistic tendencies and drive away friends.
6. Engaging in meaningful conversations

Those without self-confidence often find it extremely hard to communicate with others. This is often because they are hyper-analyzing everything and unable to listen and hear what somebody else has to say without contextualizing it, often incorrectly.
How to Cope with Self-Esteem Issues

We can see that having a lack of confidence can impact every area of your life – from relationships to career prospects. So what can you do if you, or someone you care about, may have self-esteem issues?

The first step is to work on acknowledging the issue. It is impossible to have people walk on eggshells around you forever, so working on strategies to manage the way you value and talk to yourself is essential.

Sometimes, the best place to work through this process is to seek professional counseling or start with a trusted friend or family member who will be able to discuss your feelings with you in a safe environment.

Remember that everybody, including men with low self-esteem, needs help from time to time, and asking for it is a sign of strength.

It is never a good idea to try and go it alone when something is causing you anxiety and problems, nor is there a quick-fix remedy to restore your self-esteem to healthy levels, so take it one step at a time and always, always, be kind to yourself.

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Staff writer at Learning Mind
Lauren Edwards-Fowle is a professional copywriter based in South East England. Lauren worked within Children's Services for five years before moving into the business sector. She holds an M.Sc. in Applied Accountancy and B.Sc. in Corporate Law. She now volunteers within the community sport sector, helping young people to live healthier, more productive lifestyles and overcome the barriers to inclusion that they face.
 
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If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

With discernment, it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different from everyone. 
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7 Things to Do When Feeling Defeated by Life

Setembro 07, 2020

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7 Things to Do When Feeling Defeated by Life

Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

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September 6th, 2020.

 

 
Are you feeling defeated? I mean, are you totally and absolutely discouraged about life? If so, know this: you’re not alone.
 
If you’re overwhelmed, take heart, there are many other people who feel this way too. Considering the world is in turmoil right now, you’re probably hanging on pretty well. At least I hope so. If not, it’s okay. Sometimes I feel like losing hope is the default in my life too.
 
Do you know what to do when feeling defeated by life?
 
When hopelessness takes over, can you handle this feeling? I’m guessing you don’t have that much energy to do anything, right? I know I’ve spent countless hours just rolling ideas over in my head. If you’re sitting around trying to figure a way out of this feeling, then that’s a good thing.
 
If you’re drowning in these emotions, then you may need a hand to reach down and pull you out. I’ve needed that hand, so here’s mine. Here are a few things to do when feeling defeated. Instead of wallowing in our sorrows, let’s take action.
 
1. Help someone
 
The first thing you’ve got to understand is that the universe does not revolve around you. There are billions of people in the world with issues, just know that. While I am not discounting your pain or trauma, I am trying to reroute it.
 
Today, help someone, even though you may feel defeated. When you help someone else, you will make them feel better, and in turn, you will see more purpose in life. I’ve done this before when it felt like my world was falling apart. When I saw a smile on someone else’s face and knew that I helped to put it there, my whole perspective shifted.
 
2. Ditch comparisons
 
There’s something you should stop right now, and that’s comparing yourself with others. Know that no individual is exactly like another, not even identical twins. Comparing only magnifies imperfections.
 
So, the next time you notice an impressive quality about another person, instead of wishing for that quality for yourself, just be happy for them. Then remember this, you are only seeing what they show you. You also have great qualities and imperfections as well. Comparing yourself to others is pointless.
 
3. Notice the little things
 
Have you ever heard someone talk about “the little things in life”, and about how you should notice and appreciate them? Yeah, that’s a good idea.
 
While your life may be filled with humongous chaos and it does feel defeating, there are still those little positive things tucked away. Honestly, some of those little things are right in front of you, like, for instance, the gentle breeze and the beautiful blue sky.
 
4. Take a step at a time
 
If you’re feeling defeated, stop thinking of the long term destination for a while. Thinking so far ahead will put pressure on you, feeding the feelings of discouragement. If you can think of one small step directly in front of you, then you can slowly change things.
 
For example, you want to buy a house, but your credit is bad, you have no down payment, and you have several debts. If you keep thinking about acquiring a home more than budgeting and making smart decisions, you will be stuck in these negative feelings. It takes time to make a positive change of this magnitude. This usually calls for small steps.
 
5. Accept what is
 
Every time you ruminate about the past or think of the future, you deprive yourself of the present. Most of the time, you feel miserable. When you feel defeated, you’re living somewhere else in your mind. It’s certainly not in the present.
 
Perhaps you’re going back in time to think about your children when they were younger, or maybe you’re thinking of a relationship that’s long since ended, and this is unhealthy.
 
Also, thinking too much about how you’re going to handle situations in the future will cause the same turmoil. The only way to stop defeat is to live in the now. Take what you have and make the most of these things.
 
6. Embrace change
 
Even though you should live in the present, this doesn’t mean you cannot change things. When it comes time to make a difference in your life, don’t shy away from that. You could be feeling defeated because you keep running from the change you know that’s inevitable. Yes, change is hard, but sometimes it’s necessary in order to live a healthy existence.
 
7. Know thyself
 
This one will be a life-long learning process, so you must start immediately. If you really want to know what to do when you feel defeated by life, then here it is: learn who you are and let no one tell you otherwise. Now, this doesn’t mean you cannot take advice about bettering yourself, it just means that you shouldn’t listen to toxicity.
 
You will recognize toxic behavior when someone makes you doubt your self-esteem. If they say you’re self-absorbed, take a step back, and examine yourself. That’s just a healthy response. But never let them cause you to doubt your basic feelings of self-worth. This causes defeat.
Don’t give up just yet
 
Life is hard. I mean, it’s downright almost impossible at times. I get it. But if you are feeling defeated, it’s time to turn that around so you can be a blessing to the world, and to yourself.
 
These negative feelings not only waste precious time, but they also act as an emotion that spreads. Remember, when you feel defeated, there are others watching. I think we should try harder, for ourselves and for those who are influenced by our behavior.
 
I know we’re strong enough to be better.
 
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Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple types of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.

 

 

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How to Improve Your Attention to Detail and Why It’s Important

Abril 10, 2020

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How to Improve Your Attention to Detail and Why It’s Important

Lottie Miles, M.A.

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Posted April 9th, 2020.

 
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Attention refers to how we interpret specific information and experiences at a given moment in time. However, at any given moment, the mind can have numerous thoughts, sensations, and actions vying for its attention. Unfortunately, our ability to pay attention to detail is limited. If we allow our attention to drift between competing demands, we can quickly lose focus.
In this post, we will look at some key tenets of attention, why paying attention to detail is important, and consider how you can improve it.
How does attention work?
Before looking at how to improve your attention to detail skills, it is important to understand more clearly what makes attention tick:

  • Attention is present from birth

As an intrinsic part of the cognitive system, our ability to pay attention to certain aspects of our environment is present from birth. It is a vital component of human survival. Intrinsic attention guides us by telling us which events in our environment require immediate action.

  • Attention is finite

There is only so much we can focus on at any given moment. How long we can pay attention to things depends on how much we are interested in the topic and how much distraction we face.

  • Attention is selective

Because attention is finite, it requires us to be selective in where we apply our focus. If we work in a busy office, we may need to filter out noise to be able to focus. This may happen without you realizing. However, controlling this aspect of our attention is vital when it comes to paying attention to details more closely.

How to improve your attention to detail?

It is important to pay close attention to detail in both our personal lives and at work. If we don’t, we will fail to notice when we need to make changes in our personal life. We may also miss out on potential advancement opportunities at work. The following tips are 4 key ways to improve your attention to detail.

  • Limit distractions

Given that attention is finite, it is important to reduce the number of distractions we could face. Indeed, research has shown that humans are not very good at multi-tasking at all. What we actually tend to do is switch between tasks. We are able to do this rapidly, but not simultaneously. However, if we are to focus on the detail of something, it becomes far harder when we allow our attention to be distracted.
Whilst some distractions are outside of our control, especially in the workplace, many are not. For example, notifications for phone messaging and email serve to distract us from what we intend to be doing and encourage our minds to wander.
Having set times to check emails helps to ensure this distraction can be controlled. We can also ensure we cannot see or feel any uninvited buzzes from our phones if we want to pay attention to detail.

  • Be present and aware

One way to improve attention to detail is to take the time to clearly focus on your current task. If you notice yourself zoning out from the task you are hoping to achieve, then it is better to take a moment to collect your thoughts and ensure you are present and aware of your environment. If you continue to carry out your task without focus, then you will not be able to pay attention to details, which may lead to mistakes.
Losing focus, zoning out, and failing to stay present can be due to a variety of factors. These can be small issues, like needing a break or some sustenance. In this instance, there are numerous steps you can take to maintain a focused and clear mind.
However, they could be larger issues, such as lack of interest or stress derived from your task. In this instance, it is important to recognize that you may need to change the situation you are in.

  • Have a break

Failing to take breaks regularly makes it harder to pay attention to detail. Whilst some people can stay focused for up to 2 hours, some studies suggest shorter time frames of 52 minutes on, 17 minutes off, can be more beneficial if you need to pay closer attention to detail. Indeed, other studies have shown that even within shorter time frames of just 50 minutes.
The Pomodoro technique takes this further, encouraging 25 minutes of sharply focused study and 5 minutes of break time. This turns abstract time into a more concrete form of time in smaller segments. This helps people focus on current tasks and initiates a positive tension of a deadline.
Ultimately, the research shows that people who take more regular breaks tend to perform better and with more mental sharpness. This makes them less likely to make mistakes by failing to pay attention to important details.

  • Organization

If we need to pay attention to detail, then we need to be organized. This is true in our minds and in our environment. If we are working on a task in a chaotic environment, we facilitate distraction. However, it is easy to become more organized with similar measures.
Writing things down in lists, calendars, and diaries also helps to ensure things don’t get forgotten. When things are written down, we are also more likely to do them. Indeed, one study found you are 42% more likely to meet your goals if you write them down regularly. When it comes to attention to detail, removing the clutter in the mind and our environment helps to ensure things don’t fall through the cracks.
Paying attention to detail is important because we are more likely to succeed in our personal lives. It can allow us to focus more clearly on aspects of our own lives that may need changing. Alternatively, it can help us to achieve more highly at work. With the strategies above you increase your chances of staying focused, ignoring distractions, and build your detail-oriented strengths.


 

 

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About the Author: Lottie Miles
 
Lottie Miles is a professional researcher and writer with a passion for human rights. She has 4 years of experience working within the NGO sector and has a Masters Degree in Social Policy. She has a keen interest in exploring ways in which happiness habits can help to improve mental health and wellbeing. In her spare time, she likes doing crossword puzzles, painting and traveling.
 
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